Marital research tells us that 67% of marriages experience extreme levels of discord and conflict when there is a child under the age of 5 in the home. This stage of life for many couples is experienced as one the most difficult times to navigate without the coping skills, tools, and foundation needed to transition from Partner’s to Parents. Sadly, for many of these marriages, the introduction of a new baby is the beginning of the end of the relationship – with the divorce rate twice as likely for the couples who experience greater levels of marital discord during this life change.
Can you relate to any of the following?
- Have you lost your connection with you partner since the arrival of your new baby?
- Has your intimacy been on a scary downward trend since bringing baby home?
- Have you begun fighting more?
- Mom’s, are you struggling with finding balance between taking care of your infant, and taking care of yourself?
- Dad’s, are you frustrated with your wife being preoccupied with taking care of the baby?
- Has your intimacy and sex life become stale and unexciting?
If you answered, “yes”, to any of the above, you may benefit from participating in marriage counseling.
Marriage Counseling for Couples with Young Children
Research has shown that marriage counseling for couples in this life-stage can be highly beneficial for the overall quality, peace of mind, and longevity of the relationship. Having a baby can be incredibly challenging to even the best couples, and often marriage counseling can help support couples navigate the specific challenges of bringing baby home and lowering levels of marital distress. If you’re struggling in your marriage, please know you’re not alone!! This is more common that people are willing to admit and talk about! But also know that help is available, and many of the marital challenges in this life-stage are very solvable.
Quentin Hafner, LMFT
Orange County Marriage Counselor for New or Expecting Parents